Well, here we are. It’s April.
Can anyone believe that we started this journey over six months ago!
While in some ways time has flown by, in others it has crawled. During this time we ache, knowing that our little boy is over 7000 miles away and we can’t be there for him right now like we can for Angel and Caleb. Honestly, that’s our biggest prayer right now. Pray for our little guy in China. It’s terrifying, as a parent, knowing that you can’t personally meet your child’s needs right now. Even more so knowing that, even under the most optimal conditions, in institutional care there will be many unmet needs. If our guy is hungry, we can’t be there to get him something to eat. If he just wants to play, we’re not there. If he wants someone to give him a hug, we’re not there.
We do know this. He is loved. The waiting is hard though. God is teaching us the patience that goes along with waiting for His will to be done.
This morning at church, we were blessed to be reminded of the verse,
“But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.” ~Isaiah 40:31 (NKJV)
“Almost heaven, West Virginia…” ~John Denver
In the midst of all this waiting, we have milestones. No matter how big or small, we try to celebrate them all!
So, in an exciting development, we’re going to West Virginia later this week! First, though, let’s step back!
A few weeks ago, we finally received our finalized Home Study in the mail! Woo hoo! We had been waiting so long to have this done we wanted to document the day for historical reasons.
So anyways, back to John Denver.
Who can’t think of some John Denver when you learn you’re going to be taking a country road (see what I did there?) off to West Virginia! This song rang in our heads when we opened up our mail from the DEPARTMENT OF HOMELAND SECURITY U.S. CITIZENSHIP AND IMMIGRATION SERVICES!
So exciting! You read that right! We got some mail from the gov’t. It all started when we mailed off our i800A in late March after getting our homestudy. I could go into all the details but here’s the cliff’s notes version.
It’s a form.
We filled it out.
We mailed it.
It was received!
…then, a few weeks later, we got a note in the mail confirming our fingerprint appointment. (They want to make sure we’re not criminals or something)
Once again, we had to document the occasion!
We are so excited to be heading off to Charleston, West Virginia. Should be a fun time!
dossier
noun | dos·sier | \ˈdȯs-ˌyā, ˈdäs-; ˈdȯ-sē-ˌā, ˈdä-\
I never used the word dossier in conversation this much since back when I used to play Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego?
Well right now, dossier has been part of our daily conversation. For instance, at breakfast, one might ask, “Can you pass the dossier please?”
I’ve also realized that the French don’t like their t’s or their r’s.
But seriously, the dossier is the bit where we compile a bunch of documents about our family and send them to China.
Now you might say, “Hey, that doesn’t sound hard.”
I would say, “Welcome to the biggest paper chase of your life.”
For instance, documents include, a recent birth certificate of the parents. Of note, our birth certificates have to be less than 6 months old by the time we send them to China. Having been born over 30 years ago, this required us ordering a new copy of our certificates. From California. Good times!
You have to supply all the details of your assets and finances.
Dollar bill’s y’all! Dave Ramsey would be proud of the level of detail you have to go into!
It’s not all technical stuff though. We also have to send some photos of our family!
Here we are playing Scrabble™
Scrabble is a product of Parker Brothers and is in no way affiliated with the O’Neal Family Adoption.
Anyways this seems like such a huge effort but just like everything on this journey, we are taking it all one step at a time and celebrating the small victories as they come.
For instance, we really felt accomplished after spending a good 20 minutes at the FedEx® Office copying documents! We copied passports, birth certificates, income verification documents, had some more photos taken.
As much fun as it is, I won’t be sad to say au revoir to the dossier.
Aslan is on the move
I (Scott) will be busy the next 6 weeks or so with Masterworx Theater’s production of The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe where I’ll be playing Father Christmas. This also means that my chin won’t get a respite from the heat.
Excited to be part of this production. It should be fun. My beautiful daughter Angel will be part of the crew for this show as well and we can’t wait to see how audiences respond to this beautiful C.S. Lewis tale.
Little known C.S. Lewis fact. He and I share a birthday and this is actually my second run in with Mr. Lewis on the stage, having previously done some tech design work for a production of Shadowlands with Volcano Theatre Company.
We’re thankful for the community at Masterworx as it’s given our family a mental break from the hustle and bustle of the paperwork pregnancy but also because they are made up of such an amazingly supportive group of individuals who we’ve been blessed to get to know. As mentioned a few months ago they, unknowingly at the time, played a role in this journey and we’re so thankful.
Back to beard talk, around the time the kids go on summer break, my beard might have a chance to go on summer break as well.
Lights, Camera, Adoption!
As we mentioned in our last post, we’re so excited to be planning a super fun event on April 29th! We’ve had so much support helping us put this event together!
First, Masterworx Theater is going to be providing entertainment for the event. Thank you so much!
We’ve had a ton of businesses/individuals come along side of us as sponsors and we have some great items available for raffle/auction!
Items include:
1 week stay in villa for four in Palm Beach Shores, FL @ Palm Beach Shores Resort
10 Flex tickets to a Liberty Flames sporting event
Gift Certificate for Rivermont Makery
TGI Friday’s certificates for kids meal, appetizer and dessert
$25 gift certificate for Bubbles & Bows
Gift Certificate for room at Locked Up Lynchburg
Gift Certificate for Massage Envy
10 Hillcats tickets and Hillcats ball cap
Admission for 1 to One Way Out
Dehydrator
Gardening Gift Basket
30 minute session with Clark Street Photography and Design
2 – $25 Gift Certificates to A Dream is a Wish Designs T-Shirt company
1 Month Tennis Clinic with Crosswhite Athletic Club – $60 value
1 Month Unlimited Bootcamp with Crosswhite Fitness – $75 value
Free Consult and 2 Training Sessions with Crosswhite Fitness – $105 value
4 tickets and two concession items per person for The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe with Masterworx Theater
2 bottles of oil, 2 bottles of vinegar and a $20 gift card to Favored Flavors – Tasting Shop & Little Bistro
Baking Gift Basket
Gift Certificate for 2 Giant Pizzas at Mr. Shipp’s Pizza & Subs
$10 Gift Certificate to All Fired Up
$25 Gift Card to Big Lick Tropical Grill
4 Passes to Regal Cinemas
$50 Giftcard to Wolfbane Productions
We have more items but these are simply the items that we’ve physically received so far! We’re so thankful for all the donations and look forward to this funraiser. Yes, you heard that right. This is the fun train and we’re going choo, choo!
Please come and check us out.
Click here for more information and Click below for tickets!
Finishing the Race
We are looking forward toward our event and have had so many folks come along us to help. A friend of ours recently held a book sale to help raise money for our adoption and we’re so thankful for it and thankful for everyone else who participated.
Some of you have asked how you can help us outside of an event or a book sale.
One way is to contribute toward our AdoptTogether account.
You can view our profile by clicking on the button below.
The great thing about AdoptTogether is that any donation made through them is made to their non-profit and is tax-deductible. From there, they can give us a grant based on certain expenses we spend toward our adoption.
We have a little over $10,000 left to pay in definite fees. Everything after that will be travel related expenses (Chinese Visas, Hotel Stays, Airfare) which can vary depending on the time we travel, but we expect it to be over $10,000 by itself.
In the end, we know that God will provide on this journey and have been blessed and awed at seeing God move through others as they’ve helped us along. I don’t know what we’d do without our community.
By the numbers
7526 – Miles from our house to our little boy.
196 – Days since we first learned about our little boy.
72 – Pounds lost by Scott since November as part of our adoption journey.
7 – Age of our little boy.
3 – Number of sleeping children we wish we had in our home right now and the number of sleeping children we know will be nestled in their beds this time next year.
Au Revoir
Until next time, thank you for taking the time to hear how our story is going. Please keep our family in your prayers as knock down barriers racing to bring our little guy home. I can’t say enough that, while this is the hardest thing God has ever asked our family to do, it is the most rewarding thing as well! God has made our family closer throughout this journey. We know that it was His will for us to start this journey and
I can hear the song in my head now and I just want to tell him that, like a country road, “We’ll bring you home, to the place, you belong.”
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